The key factors in happiness

We learned from an early age that we all have the right "to pursue happiness" in America, but somewhere along the line it seems our priorities may have become off-track.

We hear that money won't make you happy, but even a cursory examination of our society would lead to the belief we think it does.

Who can deny that we live in the midst of one of the most materialistic ages in history?

An article in the Arkansas Democrat-Gazette, written by Allison Grant of the Newhouse News Service, indicates psychologists contend money will not make a person happier.

Actually, one probably won't be content while suffering in abject poverty, but when a minimal financial foundation is obtained, adding to one's supply of money does not seem to lead to happiness.

Research across the world shows people living in rich countries are not necessarily happier than those in poor countries.

Unfortunately, students in college seem not to understand the concept. They rank "being well off financially" first on a list of 19 goals, ahead of such choices as helping others or raising a family.

One would assume and hope the young people will change their perspective as they get older.

Studies show, the article says, that obtaining material items may provide a "sudden rush" of happiness, but it tends to wear off -- leading to a need to add something else on down the line. It becomes something of a vicious circle, but seldom leads to true happiness and satisfaction.

"Envy and dissatisfaction come from lacking what others possess, but coming into possession of those things does not confer happiness," according to author Gregg Easterbrook. "Seeing the BMW may make you feel unhappy, but psychological studies show obtaining the BMW would not make you happy."

The number of Americans calling themselves "very happy" peaked in 1957 at 35 percent and declined to 30 percent this decade. Areas that seem to lead to unhappiness are not having a job, having a poor marital relationship and problems with children.

The nation of Bhutan has developed a unique concept that may seem foreign to the Western world, but could hold the key to improved levels of happiness, if something similar were adopted.

Gross national product is not measured in that Himalayan kingdom, but taking its place is "gross national happiness".

The "Four Pillars of Happiness" in Bhutan are sustainable economic development, conservation of the environment, promotion of national culture and good governance. The concept was shared in visits around the world by prime minister Lyonpo Jigmi Thinley.

"The Pursuit of Happiness," a book by David Myers, lists 10 ways in which a person can be happier. Look them over and see how you are measuring up on the scale:

1. Realize that enduring happiness doesn't come from financial success.

2. Take control of your time.

3. Act happy.

4. Seek work and leisure activities that engage your skills.

5. Get regular aerobic exercise.

6. Give your body the sleep it wants.

7. Give priority to close relationships.

8. Focus beyond self.

9. Be grateful.

10. Nurture your spiritual self.

It's a good list, we think, to study and put into practice. Much of the concept seems to revolve around having a good sense of balance in one's life -- taking care of basic material needs through an adequate job, but realizing the lasting elements in life go way beyond purchasing the newest gadget or piling up large sums of money. We know that intuitively, but as a society we continue to find it a hard concept to incorporate into our lives.

--REK