From These Hills

Thursday, May 3, 2012

I just returned from Branson where I attended the Springtime Jubilee. I was able to hitch a ride with a busload of travelers from Central Baptist Church in Jonesboro.

The Jubilee featured speakers Johnny Hunt and Jim Hill. Gospel music and singing was by Ben and Allison Speer, Gold City, Squire Parsons, the McKameys and my favorite, the Gaither Vocal Band. Dennis Swanberg, comedian, also entertained.

There were busloads of people from many states. Arkansas and Missouri were well represented.

I caught a glimpse of a bus from Piggott Emmanuel Baptist Church but though I searched, I never located any Emmanuel folks. I did happen upon a couple of visitors from Corning. I believe they said there were 29 people on the bus from the Corning area.

Actually, there were so many people attending, it was difficult to keep up with our own group of 36.

I don't know the capacity of the Tri-Lakes Center, but it must hold over 2,500, and it was a sellout.

There was a second conference following the April 23-25 one. I'm sure there were some Piggott people who attended that conference, too.

I was reading an article this week that asked if we treat our spouses like dogs. The article inferred that maybe we should.

Actually our dogs demand a lot, but we love them anyway. That's how we are to treat our spouses, clinical psychologist Dr. Suzanne Phillips says.

True, we talk sweetly to our pets. We cuddle with them, pet them, play with them, and overlook their demands.

If you are like most dog owners, you forgive their bad behavior. We may get angry when they overturn and rummage in the kitchen waste can, but we don't hold grudges. We may have a rough time at work, but when we enter the door at home, our dog/dogs greet us with so much joy and enthusiasm that we forget our troubles for a moment. Perhaps a spouse should get the same affection and attention we give our pets.

Pets give unconditional love. They may cower at our cross words, but they forgive and forget quickly.

Could we learn from our pet?

Does your husband have a favorite recliner that he claims as his own?

My husband claimed his Lazy-Z-Boy recliner as "his chair." If he entered the room and another family member was seated in his chair, that person immediately got up and relinquished the chair to him. That was just an unspoken rule. American custom called for the breadwinner in any family to have an exclusive chair. That custom was perpetuated for generations.

Now that women also go to the workplace, I don't know if that rule still holds. Maybe they each have an exclusive chair nowadays.

It's almost impossible to pick up a woman's' magazine that doesn't have an article about beauty and skin care.

There will be anti-aging tips and recommendations for staying ahead of the aging game. I recently read such an article on skin care that was prefaced with "how to look your youngest no matter your age."

In your 20s you can't see damage yet, but sunscreen is highly recommended, the article stated.

In your 30s you are told to exfoliate and to use Vitamin-A derivatives such as retinol and vitamin C to help smooth fine lines and wrinkles.

In your 40s your fine lines have become wrinkles and crow's feet and you might want to use a prescription retinol or a basic daytime moisturizer with sunscreen and anti-sun damaging ingredients.

There was no advice for the 60 and older woman.

A few magazines might address the 60-year-old -- but few.

But here's my gripe. The woman in her 70s and 80s is ignored. She might as well not exist.

Apparently her skin needs no attention.

Must the over-the-hill segment resort to facelifts and lasers?

I'd like just once to pick up a magazine and see an article about skin care for those 75 and older.

I'll keep searching, but I'm not going to hold my breath.