A Gaggle of Friends

Thursday, June 13, 2013

We categorize our friends, not really meaning to.

There are those friends we socialize with or work with at the office. We have church friends, military friends, or a favorite sister or family member who is also a close friend.

We have a best friend who shares our deepest concerns and sticks closer than a brother. We laugh together, cry together, and share late night phone calls.

We have gone through cancer together, mine then hers. We encouraged each other. She listened when I was heartbroken. Then we giggled while tears rolled down our faces, over nothing really,

There was that night I spent the night with her because I didn't want to make the long drive home after dark.

I was climbing into my bed when I heard a loud noise from the bathroom. There was a loud thump, then the clatter of something hitting the floor, like a glass or soap dish.

I bolted to see what was happening.

My friend lay sprawled on her back in the empty bathtub, her legs dangling over the side. She was dazed, holding a hand to the back of her head. Somehow she had slipped and had fallen backward into the tub She tried but she couldn't lift herself out.

It was no laughing matter but we've laughed over that late night fall many times since.

She swore me to secrecy, not wanting her family to know. Luckily all she received was a bump on her head.

I sat with her a while, then led her to her bed.

I lay awake in my bedroom, worrying about her off and on all night long.

Was she really okay?

Did she need medical attention?

No, she was fine.

She was well enough for us to go flea marketing the next morning.

I guess if you have a true friend, you worry about that friend. Their concerns become yours, too.

Friends have different personalities. Some are talkative; some are listeners. Some friends give advice; others don't. Some friends have dominant personalities; others are shy introverts.

Those differing personalities make for interesting interchange.

A true friend will stand by you while others pull away.

It pays to nurture that friendship with your time and attention..

I believe the Sesame street character, Cookie Monster, illustrates what it means to be a friend.

There was only one cookie left in the cookie jar while both he and a friend wanted the cookie. So the voracious Cookie Monster gave the cookie to his friend instead of keeping it for himself. He sings, "What is a friend? Friend is someone to share the last cookie with."